Wife Breaks Down In Tears After Husband Smashes Cake In Her Face At His Birthday Party

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abbyadler
Jul 15, 2022 1:30 PM EDT

Surprise parties are joyful events, especially for the person being celebrated. It means that the people in your life care about you enough to come together and create a special surprise, just for you. The only person that is meant to be surprised at the party is the person it was thrown for, not the person who threw it. In today's 'Am I the A$$hole?' post, OP told us about how she meticulously planned a surprise party for her husband. All was going well until he decided to jokingly smash the cake in her face. This is a tradition that many people are familiar with, but OP claims she's socially awkward, so she's questioning if her reaction is normal. She yelled at all of her husband's friends to get out, and then ran up to her room and cried. We get that her husband meant it as a joke, but clearly he didn't take his wife's feelings into account. Scroll down to read all the details of this birthday mishap. 

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  • 01
    Font - r/AmIthe Asshole. Posted by u/fantomTM75776 44 minutes ago AITA for cancelling my husband's birthday party on the spot and telling everyone to leave after he smashed the cake in my face?
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    Sounds like quite the birthday party. 

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    Plant - My husband's 30th "Dan" birthday was on Monday. I'd decided to throw him a surprise party since he works like crazy and deserved some time to relax and feel appreciated.
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    Just OP being an awesome wife. 

  • 03
    Font - I planned the whole thing, I went out and bought everything I needed. I bought the cake, hung the decorations to make it look like a real party with his favorite theme (he loves Batman). I just did it all. I then went to the salon and got my hair and makeup done which isn't something I do all the time but I wanted to look good for him since he likes it that way.
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    Font - I'd also invited his friends and family. They all came and we had a great time. Dan was thrilled with the surprise and said he liked it a lot but didn't expect it.
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  • 05
    Font - Anyways. After we sang the "happy birthday" song. He started cutting the cake. While he was taking the first piece I overheard his friends say "do it bro!" And "come one man!" While he was looking at me with a smirk on his face. I was standing right next to him smiling like an idiot having no idea what was going on. He looked at me and said "your makeup looks great but it's missing something...." next thing I knew...he took the piece of cake and smashed into my face completely causing me
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    Font - It looks so much better now". I was absolutely beyond livid. I took a tissue, cleaned my face then immediately called off the party. said it was over and told everyone to leave. He and his friends didn't think I was serious but I opened the door and started yelling at everyone to leave. Dan tried to get me to calm down but couldn't. He started begging me to stop as I started taking down decoration, removing the cake etc etc. He lost it and started saying that I was overreacting and ruined
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    Font - then went upstairs took a shower then went to bed then cried myself yo sleep (it's pathetic I know but I just couldn't help feel humiliated). He went to meet his friends and kept texting me about how my uprightness and my inability to take a joke ruined his birthday and his entire year and brought bad luck to him. No response on my end. And that if he ruined my makeup with what he did then it was no big deal since he "paid for it anyway".
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    Human body - He's home now but we don't talk anymore. I'm starting to think that I handled this terribly and should've took the joke and laughed it off though that would've had been awkward that's for sure.
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    Organism - Also, it's worth noting that I'm a social awkward person (can be incredibly insecure that's why I wear makeup most of the time) and don't do well in situations where I'm being caught off guard or put on the spot.
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    Art - steven112789-5 min. ago NTA. Don't let him gaslight you. He did a thing that caused you to feel humiliated. He's now trying to make it about him being the victim in a situation that he caused as your expense.
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    Font - ttnl35 19 min. ago Asshole Enthusiast [5] ΝΤΑ If Dan and his friends think cake to the face is funny, they should have done it to each other. The punchline to the 'joke' was your humiliation. He didn't deserve a birthday party after that, especially not one you put so much care and work into.
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    Font - matt55217 7 min. ago NTA-I have catered hundreds of weddings and birthday parties over the years. A few times I have witnessed the dreaded cake smashing. I would wager big money that none of those relationships lasted, It's an incredible sign of immaturity and disrespect at the very least. If your husband was aware of your social anxiety while you went to the trouble of producing this event for him, and he listened to his friends, then it was downright cruel. Get some counseling if you wa
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    Font - Necromancy- 6 min. ago It's normal custom in my family to get caked. It's just for fun times but I understand all the planning and preparing you did for him, so NTA. I'm sure his intent were not malicious at all.
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    Rectangle - GlumPie8709 17 min. ago Partassipant [1] NTA shouldn't of it been him getting cake smashed on his face, it was his birthday. Like who does that.
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